Senin, 21 Oktober 2013

Reading the Mind of Others In Everyday Life

Many thought that reading minds is the work of a psychologist , or even a psychic healer . However , believe it or not , in everyday life , you all are a mind reader . Therefore , without the ability to know the thoughts and feelings of others , we all would not be able to deal with social situations as easy as anything . By reading minds , we can make predictions about a person's behavior and enables us to determine the next decision .

If we do this with the bad readings , the impact can be serious : the conflict could have occurred due to misunderstanding . Examples of real trouble recognizing the thoughts and feelings of others - mindblindness , can be seen in people with autism , which is the inability to be a disruptive condition .

The ability to read minds , which is by William Ickes - professor of psychology at the University of Texas , referred to as empathic accuracy .

Where did it come from?
Ability ( limited ) to read our minds according to professor Ross Buck - Communication Sciences at the University of Connecticut , has a very long history . He said that , through millions of years of evolution , humans evolved communication systems become more complicated when life was also becoming more complex . Read minds then become a tool for creating and maintaining social order ; like help knowing when to agree to a commitment with a partner or arbitrate disputes with neighbors .

This capability alone appeared since humans are born . Newborns prefer face someone other than the stimulus , and the baby was a few weeks was able to imitate facial expressions . In 2 months , babies are able to understand and respond to the emotional state of the caregiver . Nancy Eisenberg , professor of psychology at Arizona State University and an expert in emotional development , said that the baby is 1 year old adults were able to observe the expression and use it to determine the next behavior . Added, 2 -year -old baby is able to infer other people's desires from his eyes , and at the age of 3 years , the baby can recognize facial expressions of happy , sad or angry . At the age of 5 years , the baby already has a basic ability to read other people's minds , they already have a " theory of mind . " Babies are able to understand that other people have thoughts , feelings and beliefs are different from their own .

Children had developed the ability to read minds by observing adult conversation , where they differentiate and complexity of the rules of social interaction . In addition , play activities with peers can also train children to read the minds of other children . However , not all children can develop this ability . Children who experience neglect and violence tend to have problems in developing the ability to read minds . For example , children who grew up in a family filled with violence , may be much more sensitive to angry expressions , although not actually angry emotions arise .

Furthermore , the ability to read minds more advanced usually appears in late adolescence . This happens because of the ability to keep the perspective of several people in the same time - and then integrate it with our knowledge and a person's ability - often requires a highly developed brain .

How to Read Mind ?
Reading body language is a core component of reading minds . Through body language , we can determine a person's basic emotions . Researchers found that when a person observes the gestures of others, they can recognize the emotions of sadness, anger , joy , fear , etc. , even when the observation is only done with minimal lighting .

Facial expression is also a marker for us to be able to know what other people think . But unfortunately , many of us were not able to detect the expression . One rich source of this marker is one's eyes ; muscles around the eyes . One's eyes are the richest source marker than other parts are there in the face . For example : when the sad eyes down , open wide when scared , it looks out of focus when being delusional , staring jealous , or staring around when impatient .

We can know the mind of another of the components in the conversation - the words , gestures , and tone of voice . But among the three, Ickes found that the contents of the conversation to be the most important component in a well- read mind .

Being a Mind Reader Ulung
Then , how we can become a better mind reader ? Team of Psychology Today has formulated some things that can help us to read minds .

Get to know other people . " The ability to read minds would be increased , the more we get to know the other person , " said William Ickes . When we interact with someone for a little over a month , we will be easier to recognize what he was thinking and feeling . This can happen because : we are able to interpret the words and action from others with more precise , after watching her in various situations , secondly , we know what's going on in their lives , and be able to use that knowledge to understand them in the context of the broader .

Ask for feedback . Research shows that we can improve reading skills by asking the truth of our guesses . For example , " I hear , it seems like you 're angry . Right? "

Note the upper part of the face . False emotion , usually expressed at the bottom of a person's face . Meanwhile , according to Calin Prodan - professor of neurology at the University of Oklahoma Health Sciences Center , primary emotions can be seen from the most to the face , usually around the eyes .

More expressive . Emotional expressivity tend reciprocal . Ross Buck , " the more we are expressive , the more we will receive information about the emotional state of other people around us . "

Relaxed . By Lavinia Plonka , author of Walking Your Talk , a person tends to " make yourself " with his interlocutors through posture and breathing patterns . If you feel tense , you could talk to your friends , unwittingly , become too tense and inhibited , and eventually become difficult to read . Take a deep breath , smile , and try to show openness and acceptance to anyone who was with you .

Critical Review
We need to remember , that these emotional expressions can be different in different cultures . Sad expression in one culture , may be interpreted as another emotion in another culture . So if you want to read someone , we need to also consider the cultural elements that apply to where the person lives , do not let one guess , or even lead to misunderstandings .

We also can not rule out this mind-reading phenomenon as a phenomenon commonly diasosisasikan with supernatural abilities , because contrary to belief , there are indeed people who have the ability to read thoughts that are difficult to explain science . At least the author has found some people with the ability to read minds , which is even capable of seeing the future and all sorts of things that hard to accept reason .


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